I was watching two short films on YouTube and wanted to share my impressions:
- Situationship by Jay Diaz (2023)
This 9-minute video takes us to two estranged lovers reconnecting after years apart. The story unfolds with a man inviting a friend over for dinner, leading to a series of compliments and confessions about their feelings for each other. As they continue, they reveal their honest thoughts. As a viewer, I personally felt a deep sense of hurt—falling deeply for someone and wanting more than friendship, only to realize they don’t feel the same. This is a “situationship”—the person needs you in that moment but isn’t interested in a long-term connection. It’s a harsh reminder that you can invest so much effort and emotion into someone, only to find they don’t share your perspective. For more insights, check out the video comments; there are plenty! My advice: prioritize yourself and learn to let go. One YouTube comment resonated deeply with me: “Just some advice, if you’re dating someone and it seems like they are two different people—the one who is hurting/rejecting/gaslighting/gaming you—that’s the actual person. They do mean it and won’t let you go, as you’re an ego-booster placeholder while they look for someone else. You need to love and be honest with yourself always, especially when it’s painful. Walk away from nonsense; it will never change.” 🤍
- Your Reality by Tatjana Anders (2021)
In this 21-minute video, we follow a woman who enters a relationship with a man she meets at a cafe. She seeks advice from her best friend and decides to date him. As the video progresses, you start to notice signs that suggest something isn’t right (red flags). The man exhibits behaviors like silent treatment, negging, ignoring, devaluing, and gaslighting, gradually revealing his true character. Although she knows he’s not good for her, she tries to make the relationship work, convincing herself that maybe she’s the problem. Personally, I think it’s important for everyone to develop a sense of awareness, both of themselves and their partners. Blame needs to be addressed and resolved in a healthy way, recognizing that sometimes it’s not just the other person at fault. One insightful comment on the video stated, “The most painful thing is how they’re so charismatic and sweet to everyone else, but at home, it’s like they’re a completely different person. When you try to speak up about it, you hesitate because deep down you know nobody would believe you—they’d never let others see who they truly are at home.”
